Its just a coffee table. I am a nursing student so money is very tight. But I must note: that if marriages win or lose, based on a point system, this is the first time my beautiful husband has ever lost any. Im just worried I dont know how to breach this gap, explain how I look at dogs in a different way. And I actually have two cats, but they all must be kept separated, because my poor cats cannot tolerate the hyper energy of the dogs. All rights reserved. the male dog also pees constantly in the house when the door to the garden is wide open. He is well behaved, obedient i took him to puppy classes i give him love he is not spoiled he listens to me. The smell, the barking, the poop, the wee, the high medical cost etc. I am so stressed over this :( Can I put my foot down and tell him I want to live with the 2 of us without the stress of dogs? He wont even consider me looking after a friends cat at our house for a week, thats how much he Dislikes pets. I thought he was acting out, but he was recently diagnosed with Cushings Disease and he cant help his urge to feel like hes starving all of the time, but my husband has had it. I want to find the dog a new home while my boyfriend is in love with the dog and wants to keep her even though hes at work all day and only sees her at night for a couple hours. If I went next door and saw another woman and she gave me a good meal, I wouldnt suddenly be in love with her and tell my girlfriend its over. But as the dog began to live with us, I began to feel pushed aside. BF got mad when he first saw itwhat is that? REALLY. The problem is he got a hunter way and I KNOW its not the dog but I look at the dog and I cant get past the colouring, its too similar! Sadly, our girlfriends do not know or are aware of how they are being played. The shelter lied to us about her age, they said she was 4 ( which is still a trainable age,) well it turned out she is more like 6. The point is: he has no symptoms of allergy, no sneezing or running nose, has taken a test that came out negative, but yet he insists that his back pain is a different kind of allergic reaction and thats why the cat has to go. Its always been my choice to let that happen, as I was single at the time of getting him. THEY ARE A ANIMAL, just like COWS, DEER, and SHEEP!!!! Its to the point now where I have no desire to sleep over her condo anymore. This morning I got up and fed the crying baby, as I always do, while my husband sleeps. Its just unreal. So we decided to take action and ask our landlord to have her live with us, the landlord said yes. So I need some advice. Tell your husband that the dog is not housebroken, that it is not your responsibility, and that he or his brother must immediately make alternate arrangements. After living together for 3 month he got his own dog (5 months old) which I was fine with. Your SO really needs to put your needs first and either give the cat away to a good home or put it out as you mentioned. I clean it up as soon as I can but the floor is getting damaged. However, If the dog continues to do so without any improvement in behavior, that can be the reason why your husband/boyfriend wanna get rid of the dog. The dogs get along great together too. Playing with the kids, running along as they rode their bikes? He has to sleep in the bed too, and even though he isnt a big dog, hes clingy and hogs the bed. My only resort left is to Im thinking put the dog down because she isnt leaving me any other choice. Developing a loving and lasting relationship is going to take much effort for both individuals. I cannot help I wasnt raised around pets or never really had but one as a child. This dog I have runs Outd lives. He gets ten days leave when the baby is born. You hate him! End discussion. She has made me want to live again and taught me loving kindness. Do you ever just feel like ending your relationship because of this issue? I am so glad that I bumped into this forum. Hit the toilet and if you dont by accudent, clean it up. Hes well trained but has been acting out whenever my husband is involved. You and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a discussion about the compromises you will both make. Oh, here is the kicker. I went back two days later and retrieved them. Im just sick and tired of this dog being higher on the totem pole than me and our kids. Get rid of the dog for pete sakes! let me tell you it is a massive pet peeve of mine when people want to compare a human baby to that of an animal. So I caved. I am experiencing all of a sudden this painful feeling of being back-stabbed. Because IT could die!!! I felt exactly the same way, and loved my boyfriends dog before we actually moved in together. Undoubtedly there will be some sensible advice here, but to be honest, so many of you just sound completely bonkers! There wasnt one day that I would go to her place without getting drool all over my pants that looked like someone blew their nose on my leg!! Dog nuts just dont get it. My main point of concern is that she brought responsibility, financial and time burdens into my life without my approval. Hire a dog trainer: If your husband/boyfriend is about to get rid of the dog, first you need to chat with him and get another month of time to correct the behavior. Dog fanatics include both men and women and those who are affected, who put up with the filth, the cost, and the behavior, are also gender-mixed. I keep saying if things are to be and work then I hope they will if not.. okay with that too. A poster above said humans are not naturally monogamous. I have a spouse who has gradually, over many years, eliminated any actual friends I might have that are not actually his own friends. My neatness has turned to total anxiety. I live my dog and I live my husband. I love dogs but not wolves. This dog has caused so many issues! Instead, I set up a crate and dog bed in the walk in closet. You, and those like you, anthropomorphize human feelings onto dogs. So sorry for what you going through. im still in love with my ex and the puppy but im more depressed than ever. He will break out of whatever you try and put him in then raise hell on the whole house. How do we work on this, she wont compromise. I could not understand how someone could do this without being completely evil. I am the one who has to primarily take care of her because he works a lot, and she will NOT listen to me at all. Family dogs always seem more well adjusted and a lot less anxious or needy. My cat is allowed on the furniture and our bed when he comes but hes much smaller than a Great Dane and sheds much less.. Anyone who would hurt something that means so much to someone is a cold hearted person who cares for no one but themselves. He makes my life miserable every time he calls he stupid or stupid fn dog. I have seen forums about SO or children having allergies and severe asthma attacks because of pets, and all these animal lovers comments are to get the SO or child allergy pills and shots but no matter what do NOT get rid of the pet and do not turn the pet to an outdoor pet. Thats unsanitary! It doesnt sleep on the sofa or beds and is house trained. He has appeared on his own TV show, been a guest radio expert, gives seminars, publishes a dog related blog, does rescue volunteering, and is active in promoting animal welfare and fair dog laws. Originally the dog was obtained at the recommendation of a therapist for the dependent brother to increase his physical activity (going for walks) and to give him something to focus on other than himself. Idk what to do or say anymore.. They would bark on the other side of the gate until they get their way. I am to the end of my rope and sanity with the dog. So he did. Any advice is highly appreciated! The dog barks heavily so much Day and night without change. Not to sound morbid but when the dog passes things will be easier and just dont get another. You sant a dog for you and could honestly care less about a future partner or the dog itself. she claims hes depressed with her daughter not being here. And as I said, it is not her fault for being so sheddy and stinky. If you say something they call you a jerk. There are people out here who feel that its mean or cruel to have their pets sleep on the floor away from them. Chat with your vet: You need to ensure if there are any health-related issues going on here. She claims its only her Dad who wants to get rid of their dog, but her Mom confessed she does too. Truly good luck to you. I have come to find out that nothing keeps it at bay. Before we got married we had arguments over our dogs how hers belongs inside since he is small and mine outside cuz there big. Its feeling like Im second best and that ever since that dog arrived, Ive been getting little to no love/attention. This is why he isnt allowed in the upstairs area of our house, and hes definitely not allowed on our furniture. Then suddenly, he brings he dog to the new house!! They can easily be steped on. Yuck! Its disgusting waking up to ripped open poopy diapers from the dog getting into the trash, its pisses me off having my brand new sheets covered in dog hair..btw im the only one washing the sheets since its insisted the dog sleep in bed with us and my SO jusy says ive always had my dogs sleep with me my whole life. I know this is cruel but for my sanitys sake I find myself just waiting for thag dog to kick the bucket. Its constant begging is telling them that the dog can assert dominance and our girlfriends will give in. He has done somethings like give the dog his own room (which I still believe he belongs outside), because he cant walk around the house and spread his dander everywhere that Im allergic to. All rights reserved. I have had my dog since he was 4 months old. Do you INVITE your partner to bed? Please be careful. Not to mention she always gets in the way. It is almost like being married to both brothers. Why even have a relationship with a person if theres the chance you are gonna let them leave or discard them over an animal? No dog should be crated all day. intimate relationship | 12K views, 171 likes, 20 loves, 67 comments, 11 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from LINDA: a couple sleeping together Wow, I can only imagine the nice doggy aroma in there, loloh my god! Before getting a dog cosnider the training and the money involved and if you cant your selfish. Im in the process of looking for a house and moving out now as she insists the dog is my responsibility as well and I HAVE to care for it. He has gotten use to the room and plus this dog can sleep for like 8-12 hours a days, sometimes even more. The more I read about this in other blogs the more I realize its not even the dogs fault its his! I accepted that but after a while he changed his mind around my birthday and, quite unexpectedly, decided that we go for it. Now he tells me hes not having his dog fixed and I need to neuter Caesar. I could never get used to those gross drooly dogs but tried a relationship with a dog but it just doesnt work. She had a seizure and yelped and again wouldnt let me pick her up and I was about to give up and take her to the pound. Gross I know. Although 13 years and a whole lot of assets later, hes promising he will strip me of every dime like hes done in the past till I crawled back like a dog. (By any chance, is your dog a poodle mix? She tried to intervene but it wouldnt stop, biting me a few times. He has rescued two cats and three dogs over the years. Howdy Long story short, it was an extremely stressful weekend, having to watch the little dog around my girlfriends dog 24/7, leash inside the house, etc. My boyfriend lets the dog basically inhale my face when I walk in the door and it totally ruins my mood, especially since he knows how much I hate it. Even after surgeries I have had, he has refused to take the dog out and I would have to with me barely able to move. raise your kids to love and respect animals but making them a sibling, i think not. We have a Great Dane 2 year old with no issues. Practically a no brainer. When he got his pup thats where mostly all his focus went. I didnt have much issue with his dog prior to moving in either, but then once he moved in with me, the dog became super needy and dependent and took up ALL my bfs attention. Every time we think she is taking a step forward, she takes 10 steps back. Ive seen it so many times these are the people who tend to get a dog because they are single and lonely, or because they think dogs are cute, or because everyone else has one and they are doing these animals a huge disservice by not training/socializing them properly or treating them like DOGS and not humans. I have asked my parents if they wish to foster my baby as i know he will be happy there provided That theyv always treated our dogs like kids. It didnt work well, and now just as a repeat of everything that has been said, is this is what we want for the dogs and ourselves. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and in the past year he was my biggest supporter on me finally getting a dog of my ownwell now a year or so later my dog still needs lots of training but my boyfriend has simply made it clear he will never move in or get a place with me if I have my dog . I wish I could summon some self-righteous fury but Im not even angry Im just hurt, sad, and bitterly disappointed. The pigs are in the living room as there is nowhere else and I clean the cages daily. I never in my life imagined Id be going through a struggle that entailed eating sleeping and so much more with an animal.I had to put my foot down. Although she might not have a perfect behavior I love her and accept her. (chihuahuas) those dogs are little demons that got sent to earth. Our cat is still yowling at me because of what the dog did. But take a moment and step back to look at the situation overall. Hahahah. I.e., Move to a new house. Throughout my adulthood, I have owned many dogs and cats. Her hair gets e v e r y w h e r e. At night we are forced to put her in the kitchen because she crawls up on the couch while we are sleeping, and its obvious because the couch is covered in fur. He is confined to his bed and his yard and it makes me sick. 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